Pediatrician Födor Katasonov has a popular channel about the health of children where he gives parents useful tips, and shares his experience as a doctor and as a father of 2 children. Not a long ago, Individuum published the first Katasonov’s books that is titled Pediatrics: Anxiety-Free Approach to Children. In one of the chapters, the author explains why there is no need to buy toys, baths, or even a crib before a child is born.
With permission from the publisher, Bright Side is publishing this chapter for the people who are currently making a shopping list for their child.
Seriously. Don’t buy a crib before you realize which kind of sleep with the baby is more comfortable for you. You can prepare the room for it, but postpone the purchase itself until you are completely sure that the mother and baby can sleep separately. In general, infants can sometimes sleep pretty well separately, but later, by 6 months, their sleep becomes more cautious, and they require more attention. But even if you do sleep separately, you can’t avoid the nighttime feeding, and in my opinion, a big basket by the bed is the most comfortable option.
A mother picks up the baby, feeds them, and puts them back without taking a step. Baby cribs placed next to the parents’ beds do the same job, but they take up more space. Besides, if a baby starts to crawl very early, like my oldest daughter that started moving around at 4 months, the baby may somehow appear in your bed. And escaping from a basket is not that simple.
When a child grows out of the basket, you can move them to the bed or onto a mattress next to the bed. The floor is the safest place for sleep. It is quite possible that you will need a crib, but I recommend making the decision about this purchase after the baby is born.
2. Changing table
Changing tables are another problem. Children fall no matter how careful the parents are. Even I, who was studying the different child traumas at the time, couldn’t prevent my daughter from flying from the table. (I have to mention that a fall from the changing table is almost never dangerous, but many parents really freak out when this happens. So, if you don’t buy a changing table, you can save yourself from going gray too early.)
The most important thing to understand about a changing table is that you don’t need it. I recommend to my patients’ parents to buy a waterproof mattresses for changing diapers. You can then just put them on the bed.
If you don’t have severe arthritis, the best position to take when changing diapers is on your knees by the side of the bed. First, the bed is pretty big and it’s hard to reach the edge. Second, children adapt to falling from their height, so falling from the bed shouldn’t harm them at all. And all the things you need for their care (a pack of diapers, Kleenex, cream, and an eyedropper) can easily be stored in a bedside table or on a chair.